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“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is LOVE.” (The Apostle John, 1 John 4:8)
“Whoever finds a wife finds a GOOD THING, and obtains favor of the LORD.” (King Solomon, Proverbs 18:22)
NOTE: This post is written for the singles on here — but I believe it will help reinvigorate the relationships of married couples who read this… and are reminded about why they first fell in love with their spouse
How do I find true love?
This is the question that I would venture to say is asked by about 99% of the world’s population at one point or another.
It’s not just a “girlie” question… guys are just as interested in finding true love as well!
As I prayed for prayer requests over the past couple years on the Jesus Daily Inspiration & Motivation fan page… I saw that a big portion of prayer requests from people worldwide was to pray for their broken hearts… or pray that their ex-boyfriend/girlfriend would forgive them… or pray that they would find that special someone.
…and my heart went out to them. Because I could feel AND understand their pain first-hand.
Back many years ago, I dated a girl whom I loved very much and would have done anything for… and that relationship ended in a not-so-nice way… and it crushed me. It literally devasted me!
Although there were many young and attractive ladies out there… I was past just solely looking at the beauty of a woman as determining whether she was for me. I had grown up… and was looking for the total package (one who was Godly, beautiful, intelligent, my best friend, loving and kind!)
After our harsh break-up… the whole process of “getting my heart back” took about one whole year. My mind told me that I should move on… but my heart would not let me!!
I am sure there are a couple of you nodding your head in agreement with me on this one, because you have gone through the same emotions. 
I never thought I would find anyone who was “for me” like the one I broke up with…
…until I decided to take back my heart, take back my emotions and make the decision to move on. I remember that one of my prayers & declarations back then to God was that I would not date anyone, not flirt with anyone, I would not fornicate with anyone from that day forward.
I pretty much devoted myself to whoever God would place in my life… as my wife.
When I made the hard decision to move on… and when I made that decision to leave all girls alone, except the one that God would send to me as my wife… that was one of the BEST decisions that I ever made in my life.
Because in no more than 3 months after I made that decision — God placed my future-wife and best friend, Melinda, in my life.
It’s hard for me to explain how I knew that she was the one… and that she was my soulmate. All I can say is that I knew that she was the one… because I had a deep sense of peace & joy in my spirit when I first saw her.
All I can remember about her physically — was that my eyes fell on the most beautiful woman, with a big pretty eyes, a huge smile, flawless caramel skin… and a warmth and love that just emanated from her!
That day happened sometime back in March of 2001 and I was 21 years old. In January 2004 at the age of almost 24, we were married. This next coming month in March 2011 shortly after my birthday ( I’ll let you guess my age 
)… will mark the 10 year anniversary of our relationship!
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I tell you this story out of the pages of my life… to get this message out to you who may be reading this… and have suffered from heartache and pain from a loved one leaving you… or maybe you are suffering from a broken relationship. I am speaking to that person right now.
I am fairly young… so I will NEVER pretend to have all the answers in life, because I don’t… and I never will.
…and whether you get back with that loved one, I don’t know the answer to that one either.
What I do know, however, is this.
God KNOWS what He is doing in the whole plan for your life. Sometimes God allows the closest people to you to leave… because in the long-term scope of things — that is what is BEST for you and even them.
1. Let go and let God take control over the situation. Give it over to Him in prayer… and He will guide you… and He will speak to you and give you direction. He will remove confusion.
2. Make sure that if you did any wrong to that person, you apologize for it sincerely — and allow them time and space to fully heal if you have done them wrong. If they are the one who have hurt you… make sure that you forgive them, give yourself time to heal and reflect whether this is a healthy and a Godly relationship for you.
3. If the person has moved on with their life and you are no longer a part of it — take time to yourself to heal emotionally… but take back your heart as soon as possible, for your own sake. There is no sense in you remaining in pain, if there is NO chance you will get back with them.
4. Understand that just because you love a person — does not mean that that person is the one whom God would have you to have as your husband or wife.
5. Whatever you do, do not fornicate (have sexual encounters) outside of marriage. This is easier said than done — but trust me, the short-term pleasure you receive… is not worth the long-term pain and spiritual heaviness that fornication causes.
Even if you are no longer a virgin… recommit your sexual life… and become abstinent (refrain from sex) until you have married. This will be the best thing that you can do for your marriage.
6. I personally believe that the man finds the wife — and that women shouldn’t be out there “hunting down men looking for a husband”. I believe there are proper ways for a man to court a woman… and there are proper ways for a woman to let a man know “that she is interested in him”
7. During this time that you are single — devote it to God and get closer to Him… and let Him mold him into the perfect husband or into the perfect wife for your future spouse.
8. When you meet the TRUE person you are supposed to be with for the rest of your life — if you are in tune to the Holy Spirit… you will know in your heart and in your spirit in an unexplainable way that that person… IS THE ONE!
There are MANY, MANY other points I could add… but I will end it here. If you have any questions or comments… feel free to post it in the comments section.
If you are looking for advice on Christian dating — you may want to check out Christian Life Advisor’s page on Christian Dating Tips.
Until tomorrow, be blessed and walk in God’s FULL abundance in your life!
-Daniel Wiafe
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Hi,
My name is Shushanik Karapetyan and I am from Yerevan, Armenia. This year started in a way for me that I am now confused with choosing a correct life partner for me. Since the September of 2010 I met a friend of my friend and I started to have a feeling that he is not indifferent to me. His name is David and he is a very shy guy, he has never approached to me and he has never talked to me about his feelings. I have been praying to God for him more than for anything else in this world. I am not kind of sure what is wrong there with him, whether I am mistaken in thinking that he has some kind of feelings to me or maybe he is not sure in his feelings.
Please PRAY for us so that GOD will show both of us the right partners and if we are created for EACH OTHER let GOD bring us together in the RIGHT TIME at the RIGHT PLACE with the RIGHT PEOPLE.
MAY GOD BLESS U!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!